Can't post this on FB .. can't really talk to DH about it so where do I turn?? My lovely and understanding friends here at CF.

Today was 90 days post trial judgment for DH and the date his first payment was due to XW for her "equilization" in the divorce. I thought he was just going to drop the envelope off at her place of work since she won't give us her mailing address .. just get a text from him that he is meeting her at Applebee's parking lot since it's next door to where he works. She suggested he just leave it in our mailbox and she would drop by and get it. Are you serious??? Like we want you on our property ...

It's bad enough that his two grown sons share everything they learn about us with her .. but now he has to meet up with her .. she will be harrassing him about this and that .. and he has a show to do in 1.5 hours .. I will be the one to get the brunt of everything tonite when he gets home b/c she will have wigged him out .. right before his show ..

I texted him saying he really needs to get her mailing address .. sorry .. but I don't care for them planning to meet once a month for her to get her money .. not worried about reconciliation b/w the two of them .. just worried about his mental health and mine .. she is unbelievable.

Now to sit and wait until I see him at 5:00 to find out what went down at their "meeting"

We have a government organization that is the go between with divorced couples.
My childrens dad sends his payment to them and then they send it to me.
Is there anything like this in your state?
Ours is called the Kansas Payment Center.

Yes .. for child support payments we do have to send those through the state. This is just money that he owes to her for "equalization" of the property that he received in the divorce. I am hopeful that in the future we can just put it in the mail to her .. No need to meet face to face each month. They can't even talk on the phone w/out it blowing up into an argument.

You could have him go back to the court that saw thier case. Have him tell them that he wants to make the payments on time, but he does not want to have to meet her in person and that she won't give out her address to him. Maybe they can set something up that he can bring it to them and they mail it to her.